Notes from the couch 10/7 & 10/19

Notes from the couch 10/7/21 & 10/19/21

Identify my stress response allows me to see my options to intentionally work toward the opposite
Fight- inhibit tongue
Freeze - find tongue
Flight - stay engaged
Care taker - sit down and engage the person instead of be all over the place
More practice, more stress, cause less activity
tend to have conflict when others are fighters
What are my options to grow in the opposite direction in of my stress response?
Can I Shrink the amount of time before I call my mom?
More data to try and protect her or avoid consequence
As a freezer - Practice remaining involved in the process, how can I help you, help us? They don’t have to have all of the power.

Where there is trust and respect a lot more durability to endure and navigate with differentiation

Agency is the bridge toward what we seek - don’t have more power over me that the Lord has orchestrated all my days
How do I switch my focus in life to God & me?

want to "show" that I am not "doubting" God's goodness or work in the midst of the hard
why do I think God's "goodness" or "work" is only in the "happy?"

it is ok and good to take things one step at a time, one dish at a time rather than trying to "fix" the entire mountain at once
strategic to focus on one area at a time
permission to work on one area at a time and not "failing" if I put one area to the side while focusing on another area

Growing is a marathon - no timeline to when I "have" to have grown and changed and figured out my island